TW: sexual abuse
Anon: Do you happen to have any advice regarding becoming more comfortable with oral? [cisfem. Sexually abused when younger] I’m just incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of it overall and I try not to bash it before I try it, but I know my discomfort affected my first experience with it when I finally let my boyfriend try. Just, any tips or anything?
FYSE: Don’t try anything you’re not comfortable with yet. I suggest learning more about oral sex and slowly making you feel better and more comfortable about oral sex. Here’s a post on Fellatio and Oral Sex and another on Cunnilingus and Oral Sex. Start with reading those and then try something like looking at pictures of it happening, reading erotica, and watching porn. Just do what you’re comfortable with and you’ll continue to become more comfortable. Talk to your partner about your discomfort and your sexual abuse and talk about how you’d like to try that at some point so they can work to help you feel more comfortable. Remember, when you try it you can stop at any time. If it gets to much and you don’t want to do it any more, tell your partner so they’ll stop. Make sure you talk about this before hand. It may help to have a safe word you can say so they know to stop immediately and check to make sure you’re okay.