Anonymous asked: I'm a cisfemale. My cismale partner told me a long time ago that he had oral herpes, and I know that oral herpes can only be passed if the one who passing it has an open sore at the time. Him and I madeout, and now I have 2 sores in my mouth. However, I havent been brushing my teeth as often as I should lately, so that could be the cause of the sores in my mouth also. Without asking him if he has an open sore, and without going to the doctor, how can I tell if it's oral herpes or not?
Well first off, you can pass oral herpes even if there is no open sore at the time. The virus sheds even when there isn’t a sore, but it is more likely to shed right before a sore appears, during a sore, and after. Unfortunately there’s no way to know for sure if what you have is herpes without seeing a doctor. Usually the sores look like red blisters, but it’s best to get it checked out so that you know. It’s also important, just in case you didn’t know this, to know that you can transfer herpes to the genitals if you have an oral infection. Through oral sex a person with cold sores/oral herpes can transfer the virus to their partner genitally, even if they don’t have a sore. That is why it’s important to always use dental dams/condoms during oral sex.