Anonymous asked: When I kiss my sweetheart, I feel nice warm feelings but also get sort of wet? And I can feel my junk fill up with blood and stuff. It's weird because these are supposed to be feelings of arousal or whatever but I don't think I really wanna have sex with him. I feel like sometimes I'm immediately sexually attracted to someone and then other times it takes time and me thinking about them when I get off. Looking for reassurance and proof I'm not the only one thinking this, please?
You’re definitely not the only one! Feelings of arousal (along with a physically aroused response—getting wet, feeling warmer in your genital region, etc.) can and often do occur in intimate situations even if you may not want sex or further sexual contact. Sometimes even cuddling or hugs can cause an aroused response for some people! For many people, the body’s natural response when they do something sexual (even as seemingly minor as kissing) is to become aroused. But just because your body reacts physically in “preparation” for more sexual activity doesn’t mean you have to “agree” with it—make sure you only do what feels comfortable and safe for you.
Also, it’s pretty common for attraction to a person to vary over time—just as your opinion of someone’s personality could change, so can your feelings of sexual attraction toward them. Often, sexual attraction to a person can depend on your current mood, their current mood, the situation you’re in, and countless other factors. So don’t worry! Even if it doesn’t seem like everyone experiences the feelings you have, it’s likely that a lot of people do (and even if only a few people did, that would be okay too! Everybody is different).