Anonymous asked: Why might I feel physically ill after kissing? Like even hours after it's like this lingering queasy feeling.

You could have caught an infection of some kind from them, if it is actually an infection or sickness go ahead and take regular flu/nausea medication or see the doctor. It could also be a psychological thing, sometimes people can get a nauseous feeling and become physically sick because of anxiety or guilt they feel about kissing someone. The best thing to do is confront the problem about why you feel that way, and if this is something that frequently happens with different people for seemingly no reason then it could be a deeper problem and you might want to talk to a professional.

-Alysha

Anonymous asked: I've been in a few relationships, and I feel like.. I don't like kissing. Like I love the guy I'm with. I don't mind getting quite sexual and all often, but I absolutely hate kissing. I've ALWAYS felt that way about any guy? Is that a common thing?

Yup! Many people don’t care for kissing.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Whenever I kiss someone for a long period of time, I get really nauseous. It always happens, regardless of who I'm kissing, how we're kissing, or whether or not his/her breath smells. It's really horrible, and it usually means I can't do anything for a while afterwards because I feel so sick. It's happened with everyone I've kissed over the past two years. I have no idea what the hell's going on. Help?

Does it come with stomach pain or just the nausea? If stomach pain it could be a form of “blue balls” when you have pain if you don’t get sexual stimulation after arousal. It’s harmless and nothing to really worry about but it can be irritating. It could also be that you’re not breathing enough which can cause some nausea. Remember to take time to breath and the breath out of your nose when you can’t breath out of your mouth. 

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: How do I tell someone I just want to kiss? Like make out and grind a little. I dont wanna go any farther than that and I wanna make that clear up front. If I told a dude "Let's make out!" he'd def try for more.

Whenever you’re not comfortable doing something don’t be afraid to stop what youre doing and to straight up let them know!

Sit your partner down and just talk to them and let them know what youre comfortable doing and what you arent comfortable with. In the beginning of my relationship we would set up guidelines or ground rules as to what we were allowed to do and what boundaries we couldnt cross.

If you dont lay down some ground rules and that kiss is turning into an intense, hot and steamy makeout session with a bit of grinding and some groping that youre not comfortable with you can politely stop and just be like, i’m really not comfortable or in the mood to do anything else.

If your partner does not respect your wishes and “convinces” you to continue or go further this is NOT consent.

Dont be afraid to just talk to you partner!

Lyna

Anonymous asked: There's a guy I've liked for a very long time, and he might even like me back. I often fantasise about dating him and such, and hope that the next time we meet (he lives far away), he might kiss me or something. But the thing is, I am very emotional, and when a feeling becomes overwhelming to me, I cry (even if I'm happy). So I'm afraid that IF he kisses me, I'll break down and cry. Does this happen to a lot of people? (I would appreciate your followers' stories/opinions too, if that's okay?)

This is pretty common!

any follower stories?

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: To the teenagers who are trying to learn how to makeout: my gf and I are both fully functioning adults who have plenty of experience making out but we are still both such awkward kissers. If someone was watching us, they would think we're the worst kissers ever. But we have fun, and that's really the only thing that's important.

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I are simple teenagers, and we do sexual activities in a secluded place. We both know that we can wait for sex so we just do fingering, blowjobs/handjobs, groping, all things like that. The only problem is..I don't think we know how to make-out properly. We're both each others' first, and I really do want to make out, it's just sometimes I feel uncomfortable. Do you have any tips on kissing passionately?

I need to make a full post on kissing eventually.

The main thing is as with all sex things, communication and experimentation. Practice will make you feel more comfortable. There’s not really any “properly” when it comes to kissing, what works for you is what works for you. Tell your partner when you want something, and try new things. It’s okay to do something awkward like accidentally biting their lip or clanking teeth. You learn from that! Just tell your partner when something is working or when it’s not and have him do the same.

-FYSE

lessthanorequalto asked: What's a good way to combat beard burn? When I kiss my new guy, I get a red rash on my chin from his goatee. I don't want to make him shave it because he likes it, but the burn on my chin lasts for days. Any help would be greatly appreciated! :)

I don’t have much experience with this so, followers!

Any tips?

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I really love my boyfriend and I love kissing him, but he always "takes control" of the kiss (if I try to take the lead and control the speed/how much tongue is used, I can't, and I don't think he even realizes he's doing this) and his kisses are sometimes a little too "wet" for my taste. I know I should talk to him about it, but I don't want to upset him, because he already has a pretty low self-esteem. How can I bring this up without hurting his feelings?

Try saying, “I’d like to try something a little new with kissing to see how it goes. How about me being in total control of the kissing and you try to mirror me.” That way it’s more like a game and you can show him how you’d like to be kissed and you can do it sometimes and maybe he’ll take some tips.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Yes I see sticking your tongue in someone else's mouth as very gross. You're not alone other anon.

Anonymous asked: When making out I don't like using tongue, or having the other person put their tongue in my mouth, to me it's gross and feels nasty, and whenever I say this people think it's weird. Just curious if I'm the only one like this.

You’re not the only one! I know a few people. Followers who don’t like to use tongue during kisses, chime in!

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I'm 14 and I recently got my first boyfriend, but I'm really nervous to do my first kiss and I guess Im just not ready. Is that normal?

Totally normal! Don’t feel pressured into doing anything you’re not comfortable with. Take your time and talk to your partner about what you are and are not comfortable with doing and that you’d like to take it slow.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: How do you suppose to feel when you're kissing someone? Is it normal that I don't feel a thing other than boredom after a while? I have kissed many people I liked, I even was really into some of them but I just can't feel anything. Is it always going to be like this?

There’s not really any “supposed to” when it comes to how you feel about anything sexual. Some people just aren’t into kissing, or need other stimulation as well as kissing. You may find things change, I know that there are some people that I just connected with them when it came to kissing and others that I didn’t regardless of how I felt about them. Sorry I can’t really give you a more definite answer but very few things about sexual situations are definite!

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Hey, cismale here. Do you guys have any tips of hooking up or making out? Thanks in advance :)

Well it depends on what you mean by hooking up. If you’re talking about actually meeting people the biggest thing is to be social. Of course the most common thing would be to meet at a bar or club, having a conversation, and then asking if they’d like to hang out somewhere else. From there try to go to a place where you can actually talk and discuss sexual history, if you’ve been tested or have an STI, and any boundaries. If you are too young for a bar or prefer actually getting to know someone first, I explain how to meet people in my insecurities post;

When you’re looking for a partner the biggest part is being social. Again, this does have to do with confidence. You can take it a step at a time. Just get out there. You can just take a walk or a drive, spend time in casual public places like parks, libraries, museums, cafes, wherever. You don’t have to talk to anyone. Just spend time with yourself doing whatever you want to do. Spending alone time in public can definitely make you more comfortable with being around people. Then you slowly make your way up to talking to people. First, make eye contact. Then smile. Then nod or wave. To interact with people you can hold the door open for them or help them if they’ve dropped something, compliment them. Something small that’s just nice. Then you start up a conversation. You can segue from helping them with something or complimenting them. If they have an animal or child you can complement the animal or child, say hi and be nice. If you see you have common interests (like if they’re reading a book you like or if they’re talking about something you are knowledgeable about) let them know. Go out and do things that you’re interested in. Take classes, get involved in community activities or events. You’re more likely to meet someone you have something in common with there. Of course you can always try dating sites, that way you’re sure to meet someone you have something in common with. Whenever you find someone you like, just ask if they’d like to meet again. Exchange numbers, arrange a time to hang out. Then ask them out. Keep it casual at first, get to know them. Then you can get more serious as you find if you’re really compatible.

As far as tips on the actual sex I cover this in my post So You Want to Become Sexually Active?

As far as kissing goes  Everyone kisses and has sex differently differently. Some people like different techniques than others. Just do what feels naturally and pay attention to what your partner does. Everything about sex comes with a lot of practice and experimentation and communication. Tell your partner what feels good and encourage your partner to do the same.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: How can I work up my courage to kiss my boyfriend? This isn't exactly sexual but I really need help. He's cool with it but I'd like to kiss him..I just don't know how..

The worst think you can do is keep obsessing about it and running over the different scenarios and being anxious about it. It’s fine to not know what to do and to be nervous. It’s fine if your teeth clank together or if it’s too wet or it’s awkward, most first kisses are. The point is not to have an amazing life changing kiss, the point is to pave the way for more kisses and to gradually grow comfortable with being with you partner. Just bite the bullet the next time you two are together, ask if you can kiss him, and then do it. 

-FYSE