Anon: hi i’m agender with female parts and i honestly feel like killing or at least hurting myself a lot because i hate my body and there is literally nothing i can do about it and i feel like it’s not worth living if i can never be happy. i’ve tried to “get used” to being a girl for many years - i knew i didnt want anything down there from a young age - but that just makes it worse. please, is there anything i can do at all?
FYSE: There are many things that non binary people can do to feel better about their body. First would be to figure out what triggers that dysphoria. In other words, what do you feel your body should look like? If your periods or fertility are a trigger you can get a hysterectomy. Until you are able to you can go on birth control and use it to skip your periods (for more info on that, message back). If your breasts are a trigger you can get top surgery. I’m genderqueer so sometimes I like my breasts and sometimes I don’t. I’ve found that binding is painful and just not something I can do often enough to be happy so I am thinking about getting top surgery. On the days I want breasts I can wear inserts. For me that is easier than binding, although others may feel differently. If you feel your genitals should look differently you can have certain surgeries for that. You can also do hormone therapy. There aren’t as many places that cater to non binary identities but more and more there are surgeries and therapies to help us as well. I’d suggest going to a gender friendly therapist (I can help you find one in your are) and tell them about your situation and your depression and suicidal thoughts and they will refer you to doctors in your area and also help you with your depressive thoughts.