TW: Suicide

Anon: To the last anon; the night it was suggested to me that my parents still had sex, a possibility which never in my wildest dreams had occurred to me, was the first time in my life that I very earnestly felt capable of killing myself. That was due to my psychological relationship to sex and not to the state of my parents relationship, but… still, lots of sympathy/empathy/wishes of comfort and strength to you, ‘nonnie. <3

Anonymous asked: To the Anon about moving in before marriage: my mom is so set on waiting until marriage for everything, including her children living with her until marriage. She always says she wanted us to stay and live with her until we were ready to move out with our husbands. I am 20 and I moved out in June and am currently living with my boyfriend. My mom didn't like it, but she loves me and she is dealing with it. She now visits and she is happy because she can see I am too.

ofhorriblesanity asked: In response to the question about what to do when the girl is on the bottom: my boy seems to like it when I bite/nip at his shoulder/neck or run my nails along his back. Playing with the hair is always nice too. :)

Anonymous asked: Thank you!!!! I am incredibly grateful for you and this blog! I have learned A LOT from the couple of weeks I've followed you and I am more aware of things. You've answered things I didn't even know I wanted to know, and I appreciate you replying diligently! Again, thanks! :)

Thank you so much for this message!

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: anon who wears a bra to bed every night: it's okay, just make sure the bra is clean! i know someone who did that but didn't keep her chest/bras clean enough and she ended up developing horribly painful cystic acne that required removal of a cyst. as with anything, just keep it clean as it is a sensitive area!

Anonymous asked: to the hetgirl who finds both genders attractive: it could be because when looking at other women, you see things that you find appealing in the way you find it attractive almost for yourself, "oh that looks really good on her", whereas when looking at males you're looking for sexually aesthetics, "oh he looks like he'd be a good lover" or something like that? even if its subconscious.

there are more than two genders, but yes

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: To the anon that asked about vanilla-shaming: what I've noticed is it can come as a mind-set thing. I know people that are all about everything non-vanilla outside of a relationship, but when they actually are with someone they only want vanilla sex. Granted, it could be just a "you're in to it, or you're not" thing. But, you really shouldn't worry too much about it. Just be more up front about your interests when it comes to sexual partners.

Anonymous asked: Not a question, just wanted to share my appreciation for this blog :) it's great to have somewhere that gives no-nonsense answers and no-one is judged and it's not awkward or embarrassing! Thanks, you're doing a great thing :]

Thank you so very much!

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: In response to the question about clitoral stimulation being "too pleasurable"... I have the same problem. I've found that if I keep my panties on during masturbation and rub my clit through the fabric (works best with cotton fabric, not with satin) that the sensation is just enough where I can get to an orgasm eventually but not at the "too much" mark where I have to stop. Also, if the panties would get in the way, it works to use a folded tissue between your fingers and clit. Hope that helps!

Anonymous asked: On the note of conflicting kinks. Sometimes, especially when your partner is a victim of a traumatic event, there might be some things you like that they'll never be able to handle but you can still have a healthy and fun sex life and relationship!

Also true! The important thing is to find the kinks that both people like, and have a blast. 

-Audrey

misahime asked: For the anon who is uncomfortable with porn, just unfollow them. Your comfort should not come after their "offense." It's your well being first, so don't worry about it and just unfollow and have fun on Tumblr

Anonymous asked: Another cis, straight, Christian girl here to thank you for this blog, and also kind of to thank all the people who send in questions! It's really good to know that there's a place for people's questions and to get information to be safe and healthy about sex. (I honestly think more churches ought to talk more about sex instead of treating it like it's a taboo topic.) fyeah sex education!

Thank you so much!

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: More about the trigger thing; I get triggered by suicide and some death related things. It usually ends up in me having a panic attack and needing to take a break from tumblr or something. So yeah, it's getting scared and not being able to get a grip on yourself.

Exactly, there’s a lot of things that can be triggering.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: (cis-f here) I saw you had a question concerning condoms slipping off with a girl on top! My bf and I had the same problem once, I just wanted to put in my two cents about it. The condom we used fit him fine, they'd always stay on the past. I noticed the condom had lodged itself in me after he finished though, and I realized that before we had starting having sex, I had given him oral right before and then put the condom on, so his penis was very wet! I hope this observation can help some1 else!

Anonymous asked: Someone asked a question about feelin a guy in your gut during sex. You gave a literal response. Obviously the reproductive organs and the digestive system isn't connected. Some people say it feels like you can when the penis is "deep". I'm sure it's just the movement of being overwhelmed and other emotions

Actually a lot of people don’t know that the reproductive organs and digestive system isn’t connected. One of the main points I make here is correct anatomy. I’ve had to explain A LOT about basic anatomy that people just aren’t taught so I took it literally as it very well could be literal and I explained how long the vagina is and that that could definitely feel very deep but usually still only be felt around the pelvic area.

-FYSE