TW: Suicide

Anon: To the last anon; the night it was suggested to me that my parents still had sex, a possibility which never in my wildest dreams had occurred to me, was the first time in my life that I very earnestly felt capable of killing myself. That was due to my psychological relationship to sex and not to the state of my parents relationship, but… still, lots of sympathy/empathy/wishes of comfort and strength to you, ‘nonnie. <3

Anonymous asked: UTI anons, I know in Australia that cranberry pills are available over the counter. There is also something called "hiprex" which is an antibacterial specifically for the urinary tract (also OTC) Things like Ural can also help with the symptoms (but you still need to get the cause adressed). Most doctors will not prescribe you antibiotics unless you have already tried using cranberry pills or hiprex to treat it yourself, or if you take them preventativly.

Definitely want to stress that these are great for treating the symptoms, and sometimes the infection, but you still need to get checked out to make sure it goes away.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: To the Anon about moving in before marriage: my mom is so set on waiting until marriage for everything, including her children living with her until marriage. She always says she wanted us to stay and live with her until we were ready to move out with our husbands. I am 20 and I moved out in June and am currently living with my boyfriend. My mom didn't like it, but she loves me and she is dealing with it. She now visits and she is happy because she can see I am too.

ofhorriblesanity asked: In response to the question about what to do when the girl is on the bottom: my boy seems to like it when I bite/nip at his shoulder/neck or run my nails along his back. Playing with the hair is always nice too. :)

Anonymous asked: anon who wears a bra to bed every night: it's okay, just make sure the bra is clean! i know someone who did that but didn't keep her chest/bras clean enough and she ended up developing horribly painful cystic acne that required removal of a cyst. as with anything, just keep it clean as it is a sensitive area!

Anonymous asked: to the hetgirl who finds both genders attractive: it could be because when looking at other women, you see things that you find appealing in the way you find it attractive almost for yourself, "oh that looks really good on her", whereas when looking at males you're looking for sexually aesthetics, "oh he looks like he'd be a good lover" or something like that? even if its subconscious.

there are more than two genders, but yes

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Anonymous asked: To the anon that asked about vanilla-shaming: what I've noticed is it can come as a mind-set thing. I know people that are all about everything non-vanilla outside of a relationship, but when they actually are with someone they only want vanilla sex. Granted, it could be just a "you're in to it, or you're not" thing. But, you really shouldn't worry too much about it. Just be more up front about your interests when it comes to sexual partners.

Anonymous asked: In response to the question about clitoral stimulation being "too pleasurable"... I have the same problem. I've found that if I keep my panties on during masturbation and rub my clit through the fabric (works best with cotton fabric, not with satin) that the sensation is just enough where I can get to an orgasm eventually but not at the "too much" mark where I have to stop. Also, if the panties would get in the way, it works to use a folded tissue between your fingers and clit. Hope that helps!

misahime asked: For the anon who is uncomfortable with porn, just unfollow them. Your comfort should not come after their "offense." It's your well being first, so don't worry about it and just unfollow and have fun on Tumblr

Anonymous asked: Hi, hum I dont mean for this to sound offensive, I'm just curios, but to the mod who answered the trigger question, and spoke about their own social anxiety, does receiving asks trigger you? I'm sorry if that's not what I should of asked, I'm just curios, and pls don't feel pressure to answer this, you don't have to if you don't want to. I'm sorry if this was offending.

Sometimes! For a while I was incredibly triggered by receiving asks. Now I am really conscious about taking breaks to keep me from getting too stressed, hiring new mods so there’s less falling on my shoulders, and I worked through my fears in therapy. I realized I was starting to expect all of the questions to be hate messages or offensive questions or that I was letting people down with my answers or letting people down when I took breaks from answering and I had to step back and remember all of the amazing and supportive messages I’ve gotten from followers about how much we’ve helped them or that I have to take care of myself as well and realize that I don’t need to be perfect.

I still have anxiety sometimes and certain messages may trigger more anxiety than others but I’m working through that and learning to deal with being triggered more.

Plus it helps to be on anti anxiety medication now.

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Anonymous asked: More about the trigger thing; I get triggered by suicide and some death related things. It usually ends up in me having a panic attack and needing to take a break from tumblr or something. So yeah, it's getting scared and not being able to get a grip on yourself.

Exactly, there’s a lot of things that can be triggering.

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Anonymous asked: (cis-f here) I saw you had a question concerning condoms slipping off with a girl on top! My bf and I had the same problem once, I just wanted to put in my two cents about it. The condom we used fit him fine, they'd always stay on the past. I noticed the condom had lodged itself in me after he finished though, and I realized that before we had starting having sex, I had given him oral right before and then put the condom on, so his penis was very wet! I hope this observation can help some1 else!

Anonymous asked: Someone asked a question about feelin a guy in your gut during sex. You gave a literal response. Obviously the reproductive organs and the digestive system isn't connected. Some people say it feels like you can when the penis is "deep". I'm sure it's just the movement of being overwhelmed and other emotions

Actually a lot of people don’t know that the reproductive organs and digestive system isn’t connected. One of the main points I make here is correct anatomy. I’ve had to explain A LOT about basic anatomy that people just aren’t taught so I took it literally as it very well could be literal and I explained how long the vagina is and that that could definitely feel very deep but usually still only be felt around the pelvic area.

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drillwhore asked: depending on your size - whether you're smaller in stature or more plus sized - addition elle is great! i got 2 bras from there recently and will never go back. but they are a plus sized store, so theyre bras are more aimed at plus sized women/breasts.

Anonymous asked: I recommend going to Nordstrom's and asking them for a fitting. It's free and someone helps you into your bras and shows you how they're supposed to fit. It's a bit awkward at first but they see breasts all day so the awkwardness wears off quickly. Previously I had been in a Victoria's Secret 38DD bra when I'm actually a 32G. Life changing I'm telling you.