Anonymous asked: I'm 15 in 10th grade. I'm a virgin but it seems to me that if i end up having a boyfriend i would want to have sex with him. I'm not sure if its good or not. Like, the emotions and everything
It’s not necessarily good or bad that you think you might want to have sex if you have a boyfriend in the near future. It’s really up to you to know when you are ready to have sex. Here are a few questions to ask yourself before becoming sexually active.
However, there are a lot of things to consider before becoming sexually active. First of all, your partner’s feelings—does your partner want to be sexually active with you? What kind of relationship do you have/want to have? Do you trust each other? It is extremely important to communicate with your partner in order to ensure that any sex you do have is 100% consensual and both of you are on the same page emotionally. There are a lot of emotions that could go along with sex, which can be fantastic (love, excitement, emotional connection, etc.) or problematic (anxiety, discomfort, confusion, etc.), and the main way to ensure that you have a positive sexual experience is to be sure you and your partner communicate your feelings openly and honestly.
Of course, the main thing to remember is that you should never do something you are uncomfortable with—for example, sex may seem great when you think about it, but if you don’t feel ready to physically do it and experience the (hopefully positive, but possibly negative) emotions that go along with it, then it may be better to wait.
If you do feel ready and so does your partner, then there are some other very important things to know. Be sure to check out the safe sex, birth control, consent, and foreplay links that are embedded within that post as well.
Hopefully this helps you to think about both the emotional and physical factors that go into being sexually active so that you can make a well-informed decision. The decision is really up to you and your partner, however, so make sure that you only do what you feel comfortable with.