Anonymous asked: I've used my fleshlight to masturbate and i can orgasm twice or more and keep going, i do kegels and reverse kegels three times a day, my first ejaculation comes fast and a lot comes out... How do i prolong this because chances of getting a girl pregnant are higher at this rate

Taken from the FAQ

AskMen has some great tips for curing premature ejaculation including anxiety control, toning their pelvic muscles (in other words, practicing doing kegels), using the start-stop method, changing their masturbation habits, and trying different positions. You can also use a cock ring.

-Alysha

Anonymous asked: my boyfriend is turned on by the idea of ejaculating on me, but i've never seen or felt semen before (i usually stop giving him a handjob before he comes or else we find something he can ejaculate into) and i'm really nervous about this. is there anyway we can sort of work up to it?

I’d first try having him ejaculate onto something and you touching the semen, and then manually stimulate him to completion so you can feel the ejaculate when it’s coming out of the penis. Go as slow as you need, and don’t push yourself!

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: When you squirt what is coming out of you? And can you squirt from clit stimulation only?

From my FAQ:

Q: Is vulval ejaculate pee? How do I know if I ejaculated or peed?

A: Ejaculate is not urine. It is actually secreted by a gland near your g-spot that is very much like the prostate and it has the same composition of semen only minus the sperm. You can tell the difference between ejaculate and urine by the smell. It can contain traces of urine so a faint smell is fine. Even if it was urine, don’t worry too much just focus on the pleasure of the experience.

Some people can ejaculate from clitoris stimulation only but most need some g-spot stimulation at least.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I read your link on anal play, but I have a question. Me and my boyfriend (im a female) have recently begun to become curious about anal sex, and I was wondering if itd be okay if he were to ever ejaculate in me? We're not planning to ever have him finish inside me, but if he were ever to, would it be okay? Or would it be better if he didn't?

With anal sex you’re at higher risk for STIs so don’t do it unprotected unless you’ve both been thoroughly tested recently (even if you’ve never had any symptoms or been with anyone else there’s still a risk of STIs) and even then you can’t test for HPV or Herpes effectively. Other than that, it can get messy and be uncomfortable but it’s okay. Make sure that if when he pulls away semen doesn’t leak to the vulva if you’re not on birth control.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I'm cis female and I have a cis male boyfriend, and he really likes it when I 'squirt'. I was self conscious at first, but now I'm just curious; what is the fluid composed of and where does it come from inside?

From the FAQ:

Q: Is vulval ejaculate pee? How do I know if I ejaculated or peed?

A: Ejaculate is not urine. It is actually secreted by a gland near your g-spot that is very much like the prostate and it has the same composition of semen only minus the sperm. You can tell the difference between ejaculate and urine by the smell. It can contain traces of urine so a faint smell is fine. Even if it was urine, don’t worry too much just focus on the pleasure of the experience.

-Audrey

Anonymous asked: how do you squirt????

This post (though not by FYSE) may be very helpful. Best of luck!

-Audrey

Anonymous asked: How come CisM can only cum once but CisFs can do it multiple times?

Actually, every gender has the capability of multiple orgasms but people of all genders can have issues with it. First, there’s a difference between ejaculation and orgasm. Once someone ejaculates, regardless of if they have a penis or vagina, it can take some recovery time. In those with vaginas, they tend to orgasm and ejaculate separately. For those without, penile ejaculation and orgasm tend to go together but they can train themselves to organ without ejaculation using tantric sex which means they could orgasm multiple times before ejaculation. Of course some people with penises do have a shorter recovery time than others so they can ejaculate several times in a row as well. So basically, the thought that those with penises can’t have multiple orgasms is a myth, though it can be difficult. Also some of those with vaginas can’t have multiple orgasms because they become too sensitive. And of course not all people with penises are men and not all people with vaginas are women.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend is very aroused by the thought of ejaculating on me. I want to please him, but I'm really, really nervous about it. Is there any way to make myself more comfortable with this idea? Also, this might be a stupid concern, but I'm worried the semen could accidentally get into my vulva and cause a pregnancy.

As long as he ejaculates far away from your vulva (face, breasts, upper stomach, back etc.) you should be fine. I wouldn’t suggest aiming lower on your stomach or on your buttox.

What are you nervous about? Talk to your partner about your doubts and insecurities and maybe he can make you feel better. If not, don’t pressure yourself into doing something you’re not comfortable with.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Hey, I noticed that every time I "squirt" I'm pretty sure it's just urine. It really has a strong smell - even stronger than when I just go to the bathroom. I started drinking more water to help dilute it, but it always seems to be a dark color and smell stronger no matter what I do. It's really embarrassing and when I'm on top I guess the angle makes it so that I do it uncontrollably. Is there anything I can do to stop/change it?

Do you go urinate before sex? If you do this it’s not urine. It can include traces of urine and depending on how much water you drink and what kinds of foods you eat (meats tend to make everything smell stronger, fruits smell better) your odors can be pretty strong.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Hi, I had folliculitis 3 months ago. I "fooled around" with a guy and he ejaculated on my pubic area. It felt itchy there afterwards and I thought I had herpes, I didn't have an outbreak or anything just irritation. After 9 days I did an "IgG" blood test for both types and they came back negative, then after probably 2 months I did the tests again and they came back negative... Am I okay?

You’re probably fine. Generally a herpes outbreak (especially the first one) will involve blister looking bumps. It probably just irritated your already irritated vulva.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Is it normal to not feel it when you cum. I feel it when I'm masturbating and I know when I cum but when I have sex I don't know if I cum or not but the guy normally tells me if I do but I never felt it. Is it normal not to feel it?

Do you mean “cum” as in orgasm or “cum” as in ejaculate?

The only person who can feel you orgasm is you. There are occasionally physical responses, but those can also just happen when you’re really aroused. It could be that they just felt you create more vaginal lubrication or your muscles tense up which can be a sign of orgasm but not necessarily.

Orgasm is the climax after a rise in pleasure. 

Ejaculation or squirting doesn’t necessarily have a feeling to it, it’s unrelated to orgasm so they may be feeling that when you don’t feel it but otherwise no one can actually feel you orgasm.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: To the anon turned on by her parent ejaculating inside her: TOTALLY normal and possibly even an evolutionary process. Who knows. My boyfriend is too afraid to ejaculate inside me (I'm on the pill) but man, the idea of it turns me on soooo much too!

I’m sure you meant partner (really unfortunate typo)

But yes! This is a really common kink.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Can younger people squirt?

There’s not a lot of statistics for squirting so I don’t know for sure but I don’t know why not.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Okay so I don't know if this is normal or not. When my boyfriend and I have sex I think it's hot when he ejaculates inside me. But recently he doesn't want to do it inside me anymore but that's like part of sex and I miss it. Is it unnatural or weird for me to find that hot?

Not weird at all! That’s a really common turn on.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: this may seem like a strange question, but how do i prevent myself from squirting? i really dont want to and i can get paranoid during sex if i think im going to.

It depends on how you squirt. Some people do it really easily from even clitoral stimulation or mild vaginal stimulation at which point I don’t think there is any way to really prevent that from happening. If you do it from direct g-spot stimulation just avoid the g-spot. Help your partner find where it is so they’ll know to avoid it. This may make intercourse less fun for you though. There’s nothing wrong with squirting, your partner may even really like it.

-FYSE