Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm a little confused when it comes to my sexuality. I'm physically attracted to men and women (mostly men) but I have crushes on women and when I watch porn, I usually look at the female. The thing is, I don't see myself ever being in a relationship with one. Does that make me bi?
There’s a few different kinds of orientations.
Sexual orientation is based on what genders you are sexually attracted to, attraction based on wanting to be sexual with them. Many people call this kind of attraction “physical attraction” although really attraction based on finding someone physically beautiful (like one would find a piece of art beautiful) is called aesthetic attraction. So if you’re sexually attracted to both men and women you could identify as many different multisexual orientations, including bisexual.
Romantic orientation is based on romantic attraction, attraction based on wanting to be in a relationship or being romantic with. So if you’re only romantically attracted to men you would either be heterosexual or homosexual depending on your gender identity.
As far as porn, that doesn’t have much of a influence on orientation. Many straight people like “gay porn” and vice versa. Many times this is because women usually identify more with women (and men identify more with men) so they get more pleasure seeing two people that they can identify with receiving pleasure than just one.
Crushes can be a product of either sexual attraction or aesthetic attraction or sensual attraction (attraction based on wanting to be sensual but not necessarily sexual with the person) so it depends on why you have a crush on the person.
The romantic version of a crush is called a squish.