Anonymous asked: If my partner is MAAB and I am FAAB, but they identify as agender/bisexual and I as genderqueer/pansexual, would our relationship still be "heterosexual"? I'm confused as I've had some people tell me we don't belong under the queer label because "[our] genitals are heteronormative" and regardless of how we each identify we're still a "straight" couple, and since we're getting married we should just go ahead and identify as straight. Do I really have to abondon my identity once I get married?
I want to personally shake anyone that tells anyone that their relationship is heteronormative. I’m genderqueer and pansexual, my partner is bi and cis that does not make us straight at all. Genitals are not heteronormative, people are. You are definitely in a queer relationship because you are both queer, getting married won’t change that either. Not only is that assumption cissexist as hell it’s also monosexist. Not just cis homosexual people are queer and no cis homosexual person has any more of a say on a trans* or multisexual relationship than any cis heterosexual person which is to say both have no say on your relationship.