Anonymous asked: Okay, so I had the implant fitted in like February whilst my Mum was on holiday. In April, she felt my arm and found out about it. She hates the fact I have it and the fact I am sleeping with my boyfriend- she thinks because when she was my age she ran off and got married and was abused ect (tw if you think it needs one) and she thinks my life will turn out like hers. I've been with my boyfriend 4 years now, he's 18 and I'm 17, and we love each other a lot. How can I talk to her to explain this?
I love my Mum a lot and she loves me but I always feel there’s this huge barrier between us now and I hate it :( whenever she’s angry at me for anything she always brings it up no matter what it is and she just can’t accept I can make my own decisions and she wants us to stop sleeping together.
Just explain to her how you feel. Show her you’re being responsible by using the implant, one of the most effective forms of birth control and if you’re being responsible with STIs as well. Talk to her about what happened to her and let her know that you’re aware of the possibilities of abuse and that you feel safe with your boyfriend. Maybe have a dinner together where all of you can get together and just get to know each other better. Let her know that it’s your life and yeah you may make mistakes sometimes or things may happen but that’s how life teaches you and it’s great you have a mom that will be there for you if something happens but you have to live your own life in the meantime. Let her know that this is driving a wedge between you and you want to be able to rely on your mother to be there when you need her but that you need her to back off on this.