Anonymous asked: I was fooling around with this guy and he came onto my stomach and vulva, even rubbing his penis on my vulva for a moment. I am 2 weeks from my last period, what are the chances I can become pregnant?

there’s a good chance of pregnancy when you get ejaculation on the vulva, especially in the manner you described. You can take a pregnancy test 3-4 weeks after sex, or a week or two after a missed period.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Hi! After learning about Essure from your blog, I'm looking into it for myself. Since I never want to be pregnant (I really want to adopt), but most doctors would say that I"m "too young" to get a tubal ligation, I think Essure might be a good option. I was wondering if any of your followers had any experiences (good or bad) with it and could share? Thanks!

 I was also wondering (but forgot to ask) is you can wear a menstrual cup with Essure. Thanks!

FYSE: You can definitely wear a menstrual cup with Essure.

Anyone with experience with Essure like to share their story?

Anonymous asked: could i get my period and then still be pregnant? it was really really heavy and painful but it lasted for a short time.

Kind of. 

You can bleed when you’re pregnant which is sometimes mistaken as a period, but it’s not an actual period. That’s why I say to always take a pregnancy test if your periods are lighter or shorter than usual as it may not be a period at all.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Well, I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone, we've been dating almost a year might I add, and I've been going through a lot lately with depression. I've been hurt before so in the passed I was really insecure about our relationship but over the passed month I've just grown very depressed and almost suicidal. I use PMS as an excuse, but it's not that. It's more than that. And he pretty much labeled me as emotionally unstable. I thought he was supportive? I guess not.

I’m sorry that your partner isn’t supportive. As someone who struggles with depression and anxiety disorders, I know first hand how important it is to have a partner who is supportive. It’s important you’re able to talk to them about your feelings and thoughts, that they are there for you and want to help, and that you’re able to discuss ways that they can help you cope and other options you have as far as coping.

Know that you’re an amazing person and you deserve someone who understands that and understand depression and can help you and be there for you.

If you need any help with your depression feel free to message with follow up questions. We can help you find an affordable therapist in your area if you need and we have some posts that can help with depression and anxiety. 

-FYSE 

Anonymous asked: so me and my girlfriend were about to get it on and i couldnt seem to get a hard on? ive had sex before even when she was giving me oral it wouldnt go all the way hard....what could be wrong because im obviously very attracted to this girl?

Usually losing an erection is a psychological issue, although occasionally it is physical. If they can’t keep an erection during masturbation it could be physical and they might need to see a doctor. Other than that it could be anxiety or insecurities about sex, their body, the relationship or anything like that. Ask them about it and see if there’s anything that you need to work through. Also, have them coach you and tell you what feels the best and what doesn’t.Coach them as well. Communication is key! It could also be that the condom is the wrong size. It should not be uncomfortable or tight. You can also try a thinner condom to increase sensitivity. 

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: About 2 days ago I've noticed my pee smells quite strong like I've eaten asparagus and almost nutty. I haven't eaten asparagus in a few days and I've peed a bajillion times since then (I pee a lot). Im also in a foreign country with lots of fatty foods and carbs and its hotter than im used to. do you think I should get this checked out or is this just because of changes from my normal habit?

It’s probably the change in food. You can expect a lot of bowel and urine changes when you travel abroad. Unless you have other symptoms like extreme urine color changes or pain with urination I wouldn’t worry.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I've notices I have a lump almost like a cyst on my outer vagina sort of in the crease where inner leg meets vagina and when I lightly pressed on it an area slightly above it had a liquid like a popped blister come out but the cyst thing didn't decrease in size. I also waited a while forit to go away but it hasn't. Should I be worried about this? Does it sound like an std? Please help, I'm freaked out!

Sounds like a regular cyst. Cysts around the vulva are pretty common, especially when you’re under 25. Just don’t mess with it and put a hot compress on it and it should go away eventually.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I 69ed with my boyfriend for the first time (it was the furthest we've both ever gone) but I couldn't get him to finish. I'm totally inexperienced; am I supposed to do something different than the buildup to get him to actually finish? Any advice on oral??

I have some posts on Fellatio and Oral Sex  and Cunnilingus and Oral Sex that may help.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: EMERGENCY! A guy fingered my vagina bare last night, he went really far but he washed his hand about 3 times and there were no traces of his cum on his fingers is there a chance of anyway possible I could be pregnant? His hands were clean as a reminder. I'm really stressed out please answer!

No chance of pregnancy. The only way you can really get pregnant from manual stimulation is if there’s visual semen. I talk about this in my FAQ, if you’d like to read more about pregnancy chances.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Sometimes when I'm wearing pads (yet sometimes it happens when I'm not), I get this horrible throbbing pain from my crotch and labia that sometimes is so uncomfortable that wakes me up at night. I was wondering if this is normal, or what it could be? Thank you!

I would honestly see a doctor about that, as any kind of pain that wakes you up or makes functioning difficult could be serious. It could be you have something like Vulvodynia. Write down all your symptoms having to do with periods, genital pain, pain with sex or masturbation, or anything that could possibly be related and show it to a doctor.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have had sex for the past 3 weeks since my period ended. We always use protection however a few days later every time I start to get cramps. The cramps also happen when he fingers me. Nothing else has changed except recently I've also had found white discharge afterwards. Is this normal/am I pregnant?

Cramping after vaginal stimulation is relatively normal. Using more foreplay, more lube, and going slower can help reduce the risk. 

Usually pain or blood with any sort of entry to the vagina is caused by the vagina not being aroused enough. Lube can definitely make it easier. Also, you need to be sure to use a lot of foreplay. Whenever you’re fully aroused your vagina usually loosens, lengthens, and starts producing it’s own lubrication. Be sure to be in a really sensual environment, some place where you aren’t rushed and some place you’re comfortable. You can start with your partner giving you a full body massage, being sure to touch your erogenous zones. They can also kiss you all over. Or if you’re alone you can watch porn, touch your erogenous zones or whatever else turns you on. Then you need to prepare your vagina. You can do this either with oral sex, with toys or with fingers. Be sure that the clitoris is being stimulated, as well around the vaginal opening. You can also stimulate the labia and other erogenous zones. Once you feel ready, and use lube if needed, you can try entry with the fingers. After you’ve stimulated the vagina with fingers or toys and make sure it’s stretched you can try intercourse if you wish. Some people don’t produce enough vaginal lubrication, if so use some lube. Everyone’s arousal is different, some don’t like their clitoris touched, others do. Communication is key. There are disorders that can make sex really painful, so if you’re still having trouble see a gynecologist!

For more information on the types of techniques that can keep you from having pain or bleeding during intercourse read my Sexual Techniques to Reduce Pain post.

As for pregnancy, there’s always a chance of pregnancy but this is probably unrelated. Any time you miss your period or it’s lighter or shorter than usual, take a pregnancy test.

-FYSE

catsandbreadandbikes asked: If the anon looking to track their periods is open to analog, the Slingshot Organizer has a great menstrual calender in it, and it has a way to tell at a glance if your cycle is regular and how many day it is (It's also a great organizer. They have a tumblr, "slingshotnews" that should link to somewhere to buy the organizer)

Anonymous asked: I didn't know that about penis piercings with a foreskin. Also, my boyfriend is thinking about getting a piercing through his shaft. How do condoms work with a penis piercing? Will it rip the condom?

As far as I’m aware there haven’t been any formal studies, but it does seem that penile piercings do increase the risk of condom ripping. Make sure that the type of jewelry you have on is very smooth, some jewelry is made to be closer to the skin and more smooth. It’s important you use a durable condom that fits the penis well so that it doesn’t irritate the piercing. I’m not quite sure, but an internal condom may work better. Also make sure you use other techniques to reduce rips like using lube that is compatible to the condom.

-FYSE

TW: molestation

Anon: When I was in elementary school, my music teacher molested me from second to fifth grade. She was a woman and I was a little girl. Since then, the terms “homosexuality” “gay” “lesbian” etc. have always triggered me. I don’t have anything against gays and lesbians and I certainly don’t think they are all child abusers. But I still get triggered and get panic attacks when people talk about them.. and I don’t want to be scared them anymore. What can I do? How can I keep myself from being triggered?

FYSE: I am so sorry that this happened to you. As someone with phobias that I’m trying to recover from I strongly suggest seeing a therapist as there are a lot of phobia based schools of therapy that can help. I have a post on phobias that details some of the therapy techniques used.

I’m also going to do a post on PTSD hopefully soon and that may help as well. Of course I can’t diagnose you, but the way you describe it does sound like a combination of PTSD and phobia.

Anonymous asked: I have two very important questions. So I've had a yeast infection for like- two months. I have not treated it yet (I intend to soon)- am I in danger of a permanent illness? Also, I have tubular breast deformity in my left breast and it's really embarrassing- not to mention difficult to hide. Any tips? Thanks a million... x

The problem is, you really don’t know it’s a yeast infection until you see a doctor. All vaginal infections, including chlamydia which can cause permanent damage if left untreated for a while, have similar symptoms so it’s important to get checked asap. If it is just a yeast infection, there shouldn’t be any permanent damage.

With tubular breasts know they’re pretty common and nothing to feel embarrassed about, as are asymmetrical breasts. Pretty much everyone has asymmetrical breasts to some degree and some can definitely be very noticeable. If it’s to the point where with bras one cup fits one breast perfectly but the other doesn’t that’s such a common problem we really need to have build a bra stores in every town. Always buy bras for the larger fitting breast and if you need to you can get a little insert for the other breast to make it fit better in the bra. That’s the main advice I have. Know that your breasts are beautiful and every shape of breast is normal and gorgeous.

-FYSE