Anonymous asked: I think my boyfriend idolizes me too much. At first hed always call me perfect, and insist its literally true but it grew. He gets extremely upset if he feels like he's made a mistake of any kind, which causes more stress than the original problem.

This question has been difficult for me to answer, because it’s almost impossible to get people to see what you see. It’s difficult to get people in this situation to see you as flawed, and it’s difficult to get them to understand that we all make mistakes. Really the only thing I can suggest is to talk to him about how you feel, how this behavior of his makes you feel, and to try to impress upon him that we all make mistakes. Couples therapy may also be beneficial. Any followers have any advice?

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I get UTIs very frequently. I always urinate after sex but the difference has been minimal. They usually go away within a day or two with little to no treatment. Do you have any suggestions on why this might happen and what I can do about it?

Here’s all my tips of avoiding infection:

Avoid using Bubble baths, soaps, vaginal contraceptives (spermicide, diaphragms, cervical caps, and the sponge), feminine sprays, and perfumes. If you use lube make sure it doesn’t have glycerin or parabens. Never get food near your vulva. If you use condoms try latex free condoms. Using barrier methods during sex (vaginal, oral, manual, and genital rubbing) can help as well.

Avoid tight fitting non absorbent clothing. Wear cotton underwear and loose bottoms.

Avoid disposable tampons or pads. Menstrual cups and reusable cloth pads work better.

 Upping the immune system can help tremendously. Using  vitamins like vitamin C and eating garlic and taking Echinacea help. Eating yogurt (especially organic or sugar free) can help a lot. 

Only wash your vulva with water. Avoid using soaps, “feminine hygiene products” and douching. Wipe from front to back and never put anything that has been in your anus in your vagina.

Always urinate and clean up after sex. 

Drink plenty of water and limit sugars as much as possible. Eat good food and exercise regularly. Get lots of sleep and avoid stress. 

If you continue to get infections, talk to a doctor about it.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Why when I wake up in the mornings I get a boner? Why does it happen?

This happens because you need to urinate. When the bladder is full it excites some nerves at the base of the penis which causes blood to flow into the penis causing an erection.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I had unprotected sex last April 29 then on May 6 and 8. My boyfriend and I use the withdrawal method. I got so worried, I don't wanna get pregnant, so I took Nordette as an ECP the day after my last intercourse. I understand that you may feel nausea and the urge to vomit. My period is about to come on the 16th. Is there any chance that I may be pregnant?

There’s always a chance of pregnancy. I’d take a test just in case, but try not to worry as Nordette can cause your period to be late or be missed.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: Brownish red discharge?

that’s usually spotting, old menstrual blood being released from the uterus.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend had mono back in like January. Yesterday, I woke up with a really runny nose and sore throat. Coughing up green/yellow phlegm. Headaches too. I figured it was more of an allergy thing since most of the people I know who have had mono don't experience a runny nose. Whatcha think?

It could be any number of thing, including a cold or flu. Here’s FYSE’s Get Well Soon Tips, if it doesn’t get better after a week or so, see a doctor.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: (cisf here) I make out with my boyfriend a lot and it gets pretty intense, but even though I enjoy it I never feel physical arousal. I get turned on thinking about that kind of thing but never during the actual physical act, even though he's an awesome kisser and we're very physically in tune with each other. At first I thought it was normal to not get aroused when you weren't going further than kissing/groping but my boyfriend gets really turned on and I'm confused why I don't.

Some people don’t get aroused by making out! That’s okay. Don’t worry about it, and just focus on having fun.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: is it normal to have constipation using a menstrual cup

I’ve heard of some people having this problem. It could be that the cup just makes you feel like you have to go to the bathroom when you don’t, or it could be the cup is making you tense up when you have to go. Try removing it before trying to have a bowel movement, that may help. Remember, good things for constipation includes drinking lots of water, eating plenty of fruits and veggies, and remaining active.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I was wondering if there was any good porn for people with a wedgie fetish...

Googling “wedgie porn” says it’s a yes.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: i'm 16 girl. i have these spots an my but like redness or sometimes like black heads or acne or somthing, and when i touch it it's not soft it's has these tiny heads or somthing sooo small but it's not obvious when you look at it, how do i get red of it, and also, can i use hydrarting lotions on it and on my thights near the pubic hair

It could just be acne. You can get acne anywhere on your body, including your butt. Yes, you can use hydrating lotions on your thighs. If you have any bad reactions though, it’d be a good idea to stop. Try to stay away from scented lotions.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: How often does birth control actually cause blood clots and what are symptoms of those clots?

You can remember the symptoms that you need to see the doctor for by the acronym ACHES

Abdominal pain

Chest pain

Headaches (intense)

Eye Problems

Serious pain in the arms/legs

Remember it’s only combination birth control forms that increase risk of blood clots, so if you have any heart, stroke, DVT, or blood clot problems you can take progestin only pills, the shot, the implant, or the IUD.

There aren’t any specific percentages out there on how often birth control causes blood clots, mostly because this would be a difficult study to conduct as there could be a lot of factors involved. It is pretty rare. I believe the benefits outweigh the risks if you have no health problems that put you at a higher risk. Remember, combination birth control also reduce your risk of ovarian disease and endometrial cancer.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: I'm a cis female 21 and I love having rough sex that leads to bruising. I love the bruising, but what should I tell my family? I usually tell my mom I get them from my martial arts class.

It’s really up to you and your comfort with your family. For instance, my family is pretty open so I just told them what it was (they said as long as it was consensual it’s fine). Others may not be comfortable with that so you can try covering them up or making an excuse like martial arts class.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: How long does ovulation last, like the amount of time the egg is out of the ovary and available for fertilization? After the egg isn't fertilized, does the period start immediately afterward? Thanks for your help. :)

About 24-36 hours is how long ovulation lasts. If it is not fertilized within that time the egg begins to deteriorate and mixes with the blood and other fluids and it will eventually be evacuated from the uterus. It doesn’t usually happen immediately, in a regular cycle ovulation occurs in the middle of the cycle. Because sperm can survive in the body for approximately 5 days there’s about a 5-7 day window where you may get pregnant.

-FYSE

Anonymous asked: tell me about vore please

Vore, or vorarephilia is the sexual fetish/kink of being eaten, eating someone, or watching someone get eaten. It can be difficult to act out on, and there’s very little information about it. Many people act out on it through drawn pornography. I will be writing more about vore when I do my series of posts on different fetishes and kinks. I haven’t been able to find any good resources on it, so if any followers know of any good resources let me know.

Anonymous asked: hey, I don't know if tumblr swallowed my question from before... CiSmale, and not directly related to sex education i suppose. But is it normal to have questions about your gender around your late teen years? (I'm 18) I've just started questioning who I really am and I don't really know what to do...

Yes! I started questioning my gender around that age as well, and some don’t question their gender until they’re in their 20s or 30s. I have a lot of resources in my FAQ about different gender identities and about gender. Learning more can help you figure out how you identify.

-FYSE