May 2013
Anonymous asked: I am an avid horse back rider and was wondering if there is a chance that riding would desensitize your clit. There have been times where I have felt very minimal pain from riding but they are never consistent, so I don't believe the act of riding itself is causing it. Regardless, I am a bit worries about it desensitizing the clit and thought I'd see what someone else thinks of this....
Anonymous asked: Hi! I did check the FAQ, but I still have questions. I'm a virgin, but I've fooled around with the same guy for several months. He's very attentive to me when he touches me, and he tries a variety of ways of touching me. I still haven't been able to orgasm, which I understand is not unusual. However, I get very close and get the "need to pee" feeling, and then it...
Anonymous asked: This isn't exactly a question but I just need to talk about it to someone who will understand. I'm dfab and I've never felt like a girl or boy. I'm familiar with the term genderneutral and I feel like this applies to me. When I get all dressed up in feminine clothes and do my hair and make up, I feel like i'm in drag - which I really enjoy. I love taking on my...
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend is having trouble keeping his erection these days. When we try to have sex, he goes soft. When I give him a blowjob or handjob he usually can keep it hard. I tried to talk to him about it, make him comfortable and things like that but it never works. Any idea on what I should do? At this point it feels like we will never have sex normally again... : (
Anonymous asked: I'm on the pill and I know you're not supposed to smoke while on it but I'm not really a regular smoker. When I buy a pack it can last me weeks, sometimes smoke a couple a day, sometimes none for several days, and I often go months without any$
Anonymous asked: Cis f with cis m boyfriend here, why is it that whenever my boyfriend enters me and while we're having sex, I feel totally fine and absolutely no pain whatsoever but after we get done having sex, my vagina can be really sore?
Anonymous asked: I've heard that some DFAB people simply don't produce lubrication, no matter how aroused they are - is this true, or just a myth?
Anonymous asked: Ok I have a STUPID problem. I'm triggered. I'm in this fandom and these two character's relationship, though not alike my trigger, reminds me far too much of that time and the thought of them being 'together' has triggered me since day one so I've avoided it. It happens to be the fandom's OTP and I don't want to ruin people's fun but I also don't...
Anonymous asked: I have two questions, the first being that people describe being "wet" when they feel aroused and why that's never happened to me, and the other is how do you deal with being a trans person and having to go to the gynecologist? I feel very uncomfortable thinking about someone seeing, much less touching my body, I'm honestly afraid I'll just start crying... I understand...
Anonymous asked: i'm a 16 y old female and i shaved my pubic hair yesterday using some soap and a razor, but i didn't shave on the mons pubis i just shave like the corners and below the vagina , sort of around my anus, i cleaned myself very well after that but today it got all red , like little pimples or somthing ! also how do i shave my pubic hair i'm too afraid to use anything
Anonymous asked: I have little bumps around my nipples, how do I get rid of them and why are they caused?
Anonymous asked: Two quick questions. I got the implant two days ago and I got it while I was on my period. Question number one: My gyno told me that I needed to wait two weeks to have sex, but I have read that it's effective immediately. Which is it? Question number two: Could the hormones have stopped my bleeding by now? The day after I got it I stopped bleeding. Is this normal?
Anonymous asked: my cism boyfriend & i are sexually active but he keeps getting yeast infections and i don't. what do you think could be the cause? he never had this issue before dating me, but he also switched from boxers to briefs recently if that means anything
Anonymous asked: cisf. though i was raised in a liberal and open environment, lately when i masturbate (i'm not sexually active), i feel really guilty afterwards. it doesn't matter if i watch porn or not. this is very recent so i have no idea what could be causing these feelings. how can i make them stop?
Anonymous asked: I'm pretty into like male submissiveness and femdom and stuff, but I honestly don't know if I'd ever have the confidence to be mean or controlling, even knowing it was in the context of pleasure. But part of this might kind of be because I've got this idea in my head that boys aren't supposed to want to be submissive and girls aren't supposed to want to be dominant,...
Anonymous asked: A few months ago, I had a bump on my lip. It only lasted a few days. It didn't tingle, blister up, or crust over. So I didn't think it was a cold sore (but I continued to apply abreva and Carmex when I first noticed it and some days after). I assume it was irritation? Today, my boyfriend thinks he's getting a cold sore. But he isn't sure. Not sexually active or anything. Are...
Anonymous asked: I'm underage and got a Trojan vibrator for $30 at Target (Walmart sells them too--I think a number of drugstores do). It's GREAT. And I was embarrassed about buying it too bc the checkout guy was giving me this look and then he said "have a nice night" afterward and I said "oh, I will." And I haven't regretted a bit.
Anonymous asked: For underage people looking for sex toys - you can get pre-paid debit cards in many places and I don't think their sale is age-restricted, although they are often expensive as many have a minimum on how much you can load them with. (They are, however, a lot more secure for online shopping in general - IIRC, the money is tied to a number with no personal details, so they can't be used for...
Anonymous asked: I'm a transguy, and find myself attracted to cis women. The thing is, I do find men attractive, just not cis penises, so this attraction tends to snake towards other trans men. Is this gross objectification or just a preference? I don't want to be a terrible person, thanks.
Anonymous asked: Thoughts on friends with benefits sorts of arrangements? I can keep my feelings in check, I just worry I'm being too sexual and he won't like me as a friend if I return the physical affection.
Anonymous asked: For the underage people that want sex toys you can also go to Spencer, normally in the mall that were I bought my first one.
Anonymous asked: If you're underage and you want a vibrator.. I recommend buying Neutrogena's Wave! it's a vibrating facial cleanser that uses one AA battery! a vibrator/cleansing tool haha and its about $10 :) i just sterilize mine with alcohol before and after usage. (water proof too for shower use)
catsandbreadandbikes asked: I wanted to share a tip for people who get a rash or irritation from their clothes. I work in a bakery, and my clothes are always full of flour, salt, etc, and mixed with sweat cause an extremely painful rash in my abdomen, just under my breasts. I've found that putting A+D ointment on it and letting it air out after showering causes it to stop hurting overnight! I have to do it every day,...
Anonymous asked: When my penis gets hard something clear comes out. What is this and why. Is there something I can do so this does not happen?
Anonymous asked: How can teenagers easily get a vibrator? I can't afford one (yet), I don't think I can go to a store and get one and even if I could I'm way too embarrassed.
Anonymous asked: It seems like every time I have sex with my boyfriend, I get a yeast infection. I'm cisf, he's cism. We always use an external condom, and I use water based lube. But almost immediately after sex I have intense itchiness. Then the next few days, thick discharge and practically continuous itching. If there anything I can do about this? It's kind of a pain literally and having to...
Anonymous asked: My period is late by 11 days. I've been sexually active, but have used condoms every single time. I've also been through some emotional stress with my boyfriend, and also was sick - so I went to the doctors and tested positive for glandular fever. While I was sick with this, I think I was ovulating so maybe thats the cause of delay. I was vomiting, bed ridden, and not eating a whole lot....
Anonymous asked: Occasionally I get aroused when reading or seeing about really awful stuff happening, for example in the news. I'm still mentally horrified but physically I feel kind of horny. The same thing sometimes happens when I'm in a lot of stress. Is there something wrong with me?
Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm on my 3rd week of my second pack of lo loestrin fe. i've been spotting for over a week now. Help?
Anonymous asked: I know it's not good to douche, but when and how often is it ok to do it. I want to try it after my periods over with, but I'm really hesitant about it.
Anonymous asked: Okay so I got the implant fitted in March last year. I had to wait the FULL 6 months until my periods settled down. Since then, it's just been random spotting, no cramps like I used to. However, about 7 days ago (writing this the 9th) I started getting cramps like I used to where were really bad and it randomly just started and I've just had a normal period. Is it possible my implant has...
Anonymous asked: I love my boyfriend and see a future with him. The idea of ever breaking up terrifies me, mostly because I would be devastated to lose him, but also partly because I believe in feminism and social justice and he's basically the only guy I know who actually takes me seriously. I've become bitter about cis men and I feel like if I ever lost my boyfriend, I'd never be able to find...
Anonymous asked: So I just noticed a post where another anon said something about having a whitehead like bump on their clit and I wanted to see what the original post was but I can't find it. :( Can you tell me if it's normal for that to happen? I noticed it last night and it stung a little like a painful pimple but when I squeezed it (on accident) there was pain and no odor of what came out, it just...
Anonymous asked: My partner has only been kissed once so he doesn't really know how to kiss, is there anything I can do when we kiss that will make him less embarrassed and more at ease?
Anonymous asked: Is it normal for my boyfriend to go soft for less than a minute while I'm down on him? He usually just starts fingering me and he can get it back up within seconds, is that normal? I know it bothers him, makes him feel embarrassed.
Anonymous asked: I am planning on having fibroid surgery, but I also have genital herpes. My gyno doesn't know I have herpes and for personal reasons, I don't want her to know (I was diagnosed by Planned Parenthood). Are there any risks associated with having the surgery and having herpes, besides an increased risk for a OB after surgery? Is it possible they could find out I have herpes when they are...
yourrecoverywillhappen asked: Hello. I was wondering, would you be able to promo me? I am a youth worker and have just started a support and advice blog as I feel there needs to be more positive blogs out there. :) many thanks, Lizzie.
Anonymous asked: i have no guy friends what so ever. i feel like a loser.
Anonymous asked: Also referring to the hymen myth, I heard that my friend was in dance and once she did a split and she said she tore her hymen. She said she started bleeding from her vagina and it wasn't in line with her menstrual cycle. Could you really hurt yourself in that way?
Anonymous asked: 1) Cisf. My gynecologist wants me to try a Mirena IUD instead of combined pills (I'm not really sure why but she was pretty insistent about 'just try it') but I'm really worried about side effects or pain. I already have very, VERY painful (as in, I can't sleep, eat properly, or do much of anything) periods that are also quite heavy, so on the combined pill I just skip the...
Anonymous asked: Cisf. I found some sort of lump at the top of my outer labia - it feels like a really big blind pimple, but down a lot deeper than they usually are. The area isn't swollen or discoloured, but if I touch it or if there's any pressure on it, it's very sore and if I press I can definitely feel a firm lump. I've tried using warm compresses on it for a couple of days and...
Anonymous asked: So I got really drunk two weeks ago and dont remember anything. I'm 95.9% sure I didnt have sex with the guy i was with, but now my period is,though on time, really spotty right now. I also had the flu last week if that could've done something to my period. idk. I just feel like I'm getting stupidly worried about this and really cant afford a pregnancy test at the moment
Anonymous asked: So I'm 16 year old boy and yesterday in class my teacher who's 23 dropped her pencil and bent down to pick it up. Her jeans started to fall down a bit making her thong visabel to the class. Is it bad I took a picture because I found it really arousing and it's great to look at while I'm masterbating.
Anonymous asked: One of my closest friends swears her hymen broke while sledding when she was little. She says she hit a bump and she suddenly felt a lot of pain because her hymen tore. I know about the hymen myth, so I was wondering what might have actually happened in my friend's case.
Anonymous asked: thank you for telling about the whole "hymen-breaking" thing. before i found this blog i thought that i wouldnt be able to try vaginal penetration (im not planning on becoming sexually active with a partner) because i was afraid that it would hurt, etc. after i read about the truth, i felt safe in trying it out. not to mention that the guides were very helpful as well!!
Anonymous asked: After having rough sex, is it better to use a hot compress or a cold compress to soothe vaginal soreness?
Anonymous asked: Hi, I hope maybe you can help me with this. I have tried to Google this but I can't find an answer. I am currently taking Birth Control A but am switching to Birth Control B this Sunday when Birth Control A runs out. Since I am not technically missing any days of the pill am I protected from pregnancy? Or do I need to use a back up method for a month as is suggested when first starting the...
Anonymous asked: I'm really hoping to get the nexplanon birth control implant, but I've looked at reviews online & just read hundreds of horror stories! women saying they've gained stones, had constant 7 month heavy periods etc, now I'm unsure, is it all that great?
Anonymous asked: I want to start using tampons but I'm scared it will hurt or I'll do something wrong. Does inserting a tampon break the hymen? Is it ok to practise inserting it even if I'm not on my period? How often should it be changed?
Anonymous asked: I turn 18 next week, but prom night (cliche, I know) is this Saturday. If my boyfriend (who is already legal) and I get caught having sex in a car, would he still be charged for a misdemeanor?
